I have been dating this guy I met online march 12. He is 10 years older than me. He works as a car salesman, has 2 beautiful kids a 4 tear old boy and a 10 year old girl. He was with the children's mom for about 13 years... They separated she got pregnant with the daughter so they made it work. They separated again and she was pregnant with the son so they got back together. About 2 or 3 years... he found out she cheated on him with someone at work. He was devastated and they separated... He LOVES his kids and is a wonderful dad. He decided to make it work for the kids and I'm sure because he loved her. They got back together he proposed, they moved to a new house and while moving she told him she needed sometime with just her and the kids. This was it... he said to himself he wasn't going to go through this again. So they separated... its been about a year possibly longer since they've been separated. Let me go back on some things ( He had proposed to her in those years they were together... for whatever reason they didn't go through with it. Her flushing the ring and I don't know what else). He was so amazing at first, still is on occasions. He would constantly make me feel loved and special. He would always send "Good Morning/ Goodnight" texts. We would talk on phone not a lot but definitely more than now. Our relationship is not the easiest one...we live an hour away from each other... his ex has a crazy work schedule so he ends up with the little ones about 80..90% of time. She gets them whenever she's off or gets breaks here and there. he is always accommodating to her... It makes me mad. He should make her stand up at work and get a set schedule but he just rolls with it. He always tells me.." its okay I love spending time with my kids, I cherish any time I get" Lately its been weighing on me more than usual... he doesn't text me as much as he used to... I feel he texts more when he's horny.. I feel that his need of sex is what brings him to me. He always tells me that he loves me and how he loves how we have so much in common and how amazing and loved I make him feel. He can make me feel like the most special loved woman and then Like I am nothing ... not by things he says but more by what he does not say. He is not much of a phone talker so it's really hard to communicate through text I HATE IT! Since he has the kids majority of the time and his ex just randomly hits him and his mom with a random "I got called to go to work" "I have to work an extra shift" and both of them just toll with it and let her run things. His mom is a 65 year old woman who suffers from fibromyalgia and another medical problem. Just as him she is devoted to her grandchildren. I asked to meet her a few months when we started dating and recently... I couldn't understand why something would always happen or fall through ... well last month or so she texted me explaining how she had spent the day with him and the kids at the zoo on my side.( I had gotten mad that he hadn't told me he was on my side... some of the things he does or say make me feel like he might be hiding something). It was so odd to have her text me since I hadn't met her.... weeks later I text her for help on finding out what to get her son for Christmas... 7 days later she responds that she had to think hard on helping me out or being faithful to her grandchildren who still wish for mom and dad to get back together... She pretty much stated how she wished they would give their relationship another chance... I was infuriated that she would flat out tell me that she just wants her son to be happy and how she knows that her son enjoys my company... enjoys my company? what the heck is that supposed to mean? well since then its been weird.. my boyfriend could tell something was bothering me... I told him something a friend said got to me and eventually I told him his mom was the one that told me something he asked what I didn't tell. He didn't seem surprised by it he seemed to already have known. I had a moment...I was tired of him not texting me at all... all I was getting were morning and night text... maybe a how was your day text... I feel lonely and unwanted... Hate that he cancels on coming to see me because he says is sick... yet I text him later and he's leaving the movies with his kids... I blew up and told him. I didn't want to keep on being a "weekend girlfriend" that I needed more time, more communication, for him to follow through and do what he says. That it's been 9 months how much longer to meet his daughter because she is the one that is not accepting mom and dad not being together. Next day I get a message saying how he loves me and he wants me around the kids... and how he should love me how I deserve to. I was still raging so I continued telling him how I'm not a monster and I don't want to hurt his daughter that she will never accept mom and dad not being together but that with time we could become close friends. It didn't go like I wanted it. He text me a good morning hope you have a good day text... to which I continued with... see what I tell you? You ignore what I say you don't even acknowledge it... After another discussion through text because he was laying with the kids or so he says...He flipped it around on me...stating how it's obvious I'm causing you stress... I can't give you what you need and deserve... I kept telling him "why can't you? why cant you give me time? show me what you feel not just tell me?...his answer because we are far apart... for this to work we would have to be closer...able to see each other more etc.. I told him "if you don't want this. If you don't want to be with me anymore just say so" "what's the real reason"? He responded.. It's not that I don't want to. I do. And yes, That is the reason. I want us to be together, but I don't see how I can be what you want and need. We hardly see each other, my daughter, I want you to be a part of their lives but I'm not able to see it happening because she has still not gotten over it no matter what I say...So pretty much back to square one... I am trying to read and see what to do... do I stay.. I know I don't want to lose him I love him and I want nothing more than to be a family with him. I don't know what to do? If to just stay and keep waiting and eventually it will work or if I'm just wasting my time because he doesn't really see a future with me and I'm just a pass time... I understand he is scared about hurting his daughter and I just need advice... help anything.