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Hi . I am at a loss with what to do at this point. I have been married for 6 years to my husband whom has a 11 year old daughter and a 14 year old son. I also have an 11 year old daughter. Things have always been rocky with my husband trying to co parent with his EX whom has a completely different views than he does. He has struggled with watching his children fail in school and put on truency programs for their excessive absences but all that is another story. Because we have daughters the same age, I have been becoming extremely concerned lately with the influence that his children could have on mine especially his daughter 11 has been allowed to bleach her hair blonde and wear provocative clothing including lace padded bras that are too big and hang out of her clothing. Her whole personality is taking a bad turn. She has been caught steeling money and lying as well as posting inappropriate musically videos online. The son is no better, already having sex at 14. My husband has tried numerous times to discuss these issues with their mother but nothing ever changes and she just says "she's trying" so he has basically stopped saying anything at all about it. He just says he is just going to show them he loves them when they are with us and maybe one day they will come around and realize what they are doing. Of course he has had some heart to hearts with them on the big issues but now that they have moved 2 hours away it's not possible to be involved everyday. After my daughter and his daughter spent the weekend together here I explained my concern to my husband about the influence that his daughter may have on mine so he tried to talk to the mother about the bleach blonde hair and the lace push up bra deal but she basically just shut him down saying she spent money to do her hair so she wasn't changing it and she would dress her in whatever she wanted because she "buys" her clothes even though he pays 70% of all their living costs. We tried to look up articles on "age appropriateness " or something to show her that it is not ok to sexualize an 11 year old and padded lace bras are not okay (!!!) but we couldn't find anything not that it would really matter anyway but I am just at a loss so any suggestions for how to deal with this would be appreciated. Thanks
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I know it can be tough. My husband let our son play SlottyVegas. I was terrified, and he thought it was a teaching process. He also fed heim all the junk food in the world. Later we came to that balance but it was hard. Keep fighting Edited by user Tuesday, August 29, 2017 9:41:43 AM(UTC)
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