Hi all,
I am new to this sort of thing but I have been divorced for 2 years and believe that my Ex is a Narcissist. My concern is my 3.5 yrs old daughter who goes to see him one week per month from Sun-Sun. He never had much to do with her when she was born and doesn't really pay attention to her now. He has told me that he won't brush her hair (because she won't let him), doesn't make her brush her teeth all the time or takes baths all the time (because she will tell him that she doesn't want to). He barely pays attention to her. She is normally playing by herself or he takes her over to his friend's house and she plays with their son (that way he doesn't have to take care of her). She has called me on the phone a few times at 7 in the morning and he is still sleeping. He still puts her in pull ups even tho she is fully potty trained day/night. She woke up at 2 in the morning one day and told him that she did not want to go to sleep anymore and wanted a movie on. So he put a movie on for her and he went back to bed. About 30 min later, he woke up to my daughter shaking him awake, screaming and holding her bloody face. One of his dogs had bit her in the face. He took her to the ER and told them that he didn't know what happened and that he thinks she fell off the bed and hit her head. Even tho my daughter said the dog bit her. He didn't even call to tell me that it happened until the next evening. She got 9 stitched above her eyebrow. The injury itself I can be a little understanding because my daughter jumped on the dog while he was sleeping and he wiped his head around and bit her. So I can understand that happening but what I cannot understand is that he let her stay up at 2 in the morning and basically left her unsupervised which lead to the injury. The house that they were living in is in a constant state of dirty. There is inches of dust of everything, masses amounts of dog hair everywhere, empty pill bottles laying around, trash and empty soda cans around, the house smells like dog and pee. Now he is moving to a new place (a studio) and I have no idea what it looks like inside but the outside is a run down, cement, commercial building with holes and pieces of the cement missing. It is also on a main street downtown surrounded by bars. There is no yard or anything. My question I guess in all this is can I report him for neglect? I have no idea who watched her, no idea what she eats (although whenever I see her or call her she is eating junk food and drinking soda), no idea what goes on in that house at all. She started showing signs of self injury right after the divorce and when she came back from 10 days vacation with her dad. She wasn't even 2 years old yet and hitting and biting herself. Now she is just a very angry 3.5 yr old and sometimes self injures. She screams at me, kicks me, hits me and has 2-4 hr meltdowns. Now that I saw his new place, I am so concerned for my daughter. What happens if she walks out into the street or a bunch of drunk people are around? The courts won't realty do much and I don't know what else to do.