Why is it that ex-husbands think it is their job to make us miserable? My ex was the same way. Nothing I did was right and he took great pleasure in judging me. For a long time I wasted my time defended my actions then I realized I was giving him what he wanted...a reaction.
This is what I did, it may work for you...
1. I refused to do anything other than what was outlined in our visitation schedule. I learned the hard way that he didn't want to negotiate with me about seeing the kids, he just wanted to push my buttons. Now he sees the kids whenever our divorce decree says he can and that is it.
2. I stopped worrying about his smack talk about me to the kids. I figured my actions toward my kids spoke volumns more than his nasty words. As long as I was a good mother my kids would see that and nothing he said about me could take that away. Being a good mother negates anything he says to those kids.
3. When my ex bellyached about how much money he had to give me I told him to take me to court and have it changed. That shut him up because he knew he would have to prove it in court, something he couldn't prove.
4. I don't respond to emails and texts from my ex unless they are regarding the kids. I surely don't respond if his emails, phone calls and texts are disrespectful of me. It took him some time to get the message but he finally did. Once I divorced him I didn't have to take his crap any longer and I showed him that by not taking it!
Tune him out and turn him off, Danielle. Set boundaries and hold him to those boundaries. He will eventually get the message.
Jolie~