Dear ladies,

Please let me know what's going on in my wife's head?

We were married for 30 yrs and have 2 grown children. We were sexually active .... once a week prior to my medical issue. I was medically mismanaged 4 yrs ago and rendered me physically paralysed and semi-comatosed. I woke up 6 months ago and slowly getting senses to my body again. I am 60% active to my previous condition.

My wife is a career woman and held a senior position (VP) in a Fortune 500 company. I asked her to retire and she said "NO" ... saying she enjoyed her work and it brings in good money for her. The house we are living in and her car are all paid by me. All her income is for her own expenses only as my own retirement plan is financing my daily expenses. We both have million dollar FD savings in our own names.

Recently, I saw her coming back after 12 midnight and asked her where did she go? She said she was counselling a lady staff down the road in Starbucks. I asked her for her phone to check her appointment with the staff concern. She refused and said I am intruding to her privacy. I was angry with her and I am concerned she might be involved with someone who might blackmail her of her money.

She told me off ....
1. Don't be silly. Your sickness is affecting your thinking.
2. You can sleep in the other room if you don't want to sleep with me. But don't leave the house.
3. She said "I am a corporate woman and have lots of entertainment. Monday to Friday I may be out until 12 midnight. Weekends we will be together."
4. She goes to the gym at 6 am everyday to work out ... major area to slim/trim her abdominal areas.
5. Weekends she goes to 5-star Philip Wain Spa for rub down and skin care treatment. She kept herself well and looked like a 40 yo chick.
6. She spends her money in clothings and jewelleries. I bought her a Rolex and Cartier some years back ... she bought another latest Rolex now.

One thing I couldn't accept is that there are hardly any alchohol scent in her breath and she always drop her clothings in the washer when she come home and wash them. She changes into pyjamas and fall asleep immediately (5 mins) and I go close to smell her body and smelt like she just had a shower before coming home !!!???

I am planning to engage a PI to snap some pics of her meetings.