My husband for years has increased our home equity by 250,000.00. He had a loan from his parents as well for about $200,000.00. It is even more.....About 18 years ago, I remember the day clear as a bell....on my way to work, sun shining and happy as can be. He placed a paper under me to sign, as a trusting wife I did. It was not until my daughter was on her way to college did I realize what happened, and all the financil debt he had my name on. I discovered this as I completed the FASFA. The list goes o of the horrible things done to me....not with getting overly wordy I need to express this

1) drugs in my drink

2) lure me in with cigarettes for oral sex

3) Extreme foul langugae with my children present, F.....ing C.... .

4) Manic bevaiors during holidays and trips with  huge faily agruments. The children refuse to travel with him anymore. 

5) Sold my jewlery for money. Missing engagement ring, beautiful Tiffany ladle form my Grandfather.....missing

6) for 30 years cleaned, shopped, served and cleaned up after his parents for dinner every other Sunday. When I said I was tried as now working full tme screamed at me that I was hateful toward his elderly parents. Tried to tell him I was tired and need time to rest before work.

7) No monatary support right for kids, I think he is struggling.

8) Harassing children....never a warm, hug when they come in or intiate conversation just

I can bring up may more abuses to me and my children. And, as stupid as I am I feel I need to stay for the kids as now approaching college. What would happen finacially....if divorce and sold home. The expenses...ugh. I would rather see them in college. Although not helping.

I did go to a lawyer and I have a letter to hand him to start mediation......maybe I will get more help this way. The house is too expensive for him to carry. Thoughts on this  ! I think I need to show my children you need to be strong and right is always better then wrong