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I am really happy to have found this forum. I am newly divorced, it has been just 3 months. I have two young kids, my daughter is 5 and my son is 3. I know that getting divorced was the right thing, and in so many ways I am happier and I believe the kids will be fine. I guess our divorce is what you'd call "amicable" - I mean we are both dedicated to the kids and co-parenting. But there is still so much resentment, hurt and anger under the surface. My Ex already has a new girlfriend - it's only been 3 months! I can't even think of dating yet.
I am worried about the kids seeing the new girlfriend. I am worried about them spending time at my ex's house. I am worried that I won't be able to suport myself and the kids financially. I am worried that I will never find anyone else to love me again. I just feel worried all the time. Is this normal? I put on a good front to everyone but inside I'm a mess.
I would love to hear from other women, how have you managed this? It all seems overwhelming.
~ Daphne
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Yes, all your worries are absolutely normal. It'll be a year for me in July and though the worries aren't as constant they still are there time to time. When you don't have the kids with you stay busy!! I picked up another additional job for the time they are at their dads. Keeps my mind busy and additional money.
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Hi Roxy,
Thank you for reponding, and for the hope that this will get easier. That's a great idea about keeping busy. I've always loved to knit and even sold some things before kids, I am thinking maybe I will pick it up again. I always found it relaxing and maybe I can make some extra money off of it!
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I am newly divorced and I even though my ex and I were in agreement of the divorce, it's still hard to start over. I have a loving family, and a great support system. I have also learned to keep myself busy with new hobbies such as salsa dancing, gardening, and travel. Look ahead, and keep yourself busy nurturing and loving YOU. 
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Hi,
I'm sorry to read that you had to make the transition from married life, but it sounds like the divorce was an amicable decision. No one marries to get divorced, so I know it will take some getting used to. You are so fortunate to have a great support system and it sounds like you are on the right track! Definitely, continue to do what you enjoy and take care of you.
Warm wishes,
Shanon
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Very happy to hear that you really care about your kids. Your worries will be over soon and you will get happier.
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