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Hi all, I got divorced recently. My husband was cheating on me, he was having an extramarital affair, and he chose her over me. So, things ended, but our 6 year old daughter s with me, and I am happy about that. We were living together in Canada, and now, I don’t want to live here any more, where I will be reminded about our memories, I don’t want to think about them, and start my life in new terms. My sister is living in Geneva, and she has asked me to go there, she said that I will get good job opportunities there, and she has arranged a home for me as well. Now, the difficulty is in shifting from here. Since I am alone, i will not be able to do all the packing and moving on my own. So, my sister recommended me to hire professional packers and movers, and I checked online, and found an international relocation service provider., has anyone hired such services? I am excited about going to a new city, and starting a new life, but the memories of past are not leaving my mind. What should I do to let him go off my mind? Please help me. I cannot keep thinking about him and destroy my life again, I have to live for my daughter.
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Hi allalone.
I'm sorry to hear about the situation you are in. First, I think it is valuable to focus on the custody of your daughter. It is hard for most of us to let go of the past. A great little book that has helped me is "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz. I highly recommend reading it.
Also, as one that has been helping women in transition for over 25 years, I always suggest one not make a major life change for at least a year. Our emotions can cause us to make decisions that aren't in a best interest.
Lastly, i'm not sure of the details of your separation agreement but it may state that you can't move more than a certain distance from your ex. i'd look into that before getting to far along in this process. Also, as far as the mover, I suggest using a rating service for whoever you use and possibly requesting references.
Wish you all the best in your new journey.
Rick Fingerman
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